Non-gender specific relationship mistakes that can lead to sabotage have been put together by me in this article. Hopefully, this list will inspire "a-ha" moments, insightful discussions, and a shift in one's behaviour.
Humans have a tendency to find what they're looking for in the world around them. Both those who fear the worst and those who believe we're in the midst of the greatest opportunity of our lifetimes have a point to make.
1. Focusing more on what's wrong rather than what's right.
You and your partner will inevitably have disagreements, and you'll need to learn how to deal with them in a positive way.
2. Preferring to be right than to be happily in love.
It is human nature to try to satisfy our perceived needs even if it means going against our values in the process. Because your own needs are more important than anyone else's, it often has nothing to do with anyone else.
3. Taking things personally and making it all about you
Even though it appears that many of these topics overlap, that is only because they actually do. The road to disaster is paved with bad habits and ineffective strategies.
4. Not creating a safe space for your partner to speak openly and just be.
Those things that you don't celebrate will deteriorate over time. If you want a relationship to last and flourish, you must provide it with care, attention, and nourishment on a regular basis.
5. Putting other people or things ahead of your relationship
To make your partner feel more loved, understood and appreciated than they've ever felt, would you do it if you knew exactly how to do it time after time? The answer is a resounding yes.
6. Not knowing or fulfilling one another's love language.
No, I don't think I know the root cause of most arguments between couples. Discrepancies between their personal values, beliefs, habits, or expectations are at the root of this. The end.
7. Expecting your partner to think and act exactly as you do.